How to Minimize Conflict in a Contentious Divorce
Despite the increase in amicable divorce resolution methods like mediation, some divorces between couples end up being contentious and full of conflict. High conflict divorce can increase stress and emotions during an already difficult time, but there are steps that you can take to minimize the conflict in your Florida divorce. At the Law Offices of David L. Hirschberg, our team of dedicated legal professionals is here to assist in every aspect of your Boca Raton divorce. Call or contact our office today to schedule a consultation of your case.
Prioritize with Your Attorney
The first thing that you should do during a high conflict divorce is have a conversation with your lawyer about your priorities in the case. Be sure that your lawyer knows what issues and items mean the most to you and what does not, as there are likely to be battles over every issue in your divorce. This puts your attorney in a much better position to negotiate and ensure that despite the conflict, you walk away with what you want out of the divorce.
Be Prepared for Anything
In high conflict divorce cases, some spouses will do or say anything to create problems for the other. This can even go as far as false claims of domestic abuse, or worse, in order to tarnish a spouse’s reputation or gain an advantage in issues of child custody or alimony in the case. You must be prepared for anything, which means collecting as much documentation and evidence as possible to support or refute claims that may arise during the case. Your attorney can help you collect whatever is necessary to further promote your cause in a high conflict divorce.
Let Your Lawyer Handle Communication
One way to minimize the opportunities for conflict in a contentious divorce case is to let your lawyer handle the communication with the other side. All negotiation, requests, and communication from your spouse and your spouse’s lawyer should flow through your attorney. Allow your lawyer to handle the responses in order to minimize communication between you and your spouse. Do not respond to any outside attempts at communication, such as phone calls, emails, or texts unless it is something critical like a parenting emergency.
Do Not Speak Poorly of Your Ex
Finally, during a high conflict divorce it is important to not speak poorly of your spouse while the case is ongoing, whether verbally or in writing (i.e., through text, e-mail, etc.). This is often the most difficult thing to do, especially during a contentious divorce, but it is important to not bad mouth your ex to friends, family, coworkers, or on social media. These statements can be used against you during the divorce, especially when it comes to issues regarding your ability to co-parent minor children or in matters of spousal support.
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If you have concerns about navigating a high conflict divorce, contact the Boca Raton divorce lawyers at the Law Offices of David L. Hirschberg today to schedule a consultation of your case now.